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I have been watching porn since I was 7. It seems the only way I can get off is to watch it or think about graphic things. I very seldom orgasm with a partner. I watch porn about 4 times a week. Is there any way to reprogram myself so that I can actually become more stimulated through normal things and orgasm with someone else?

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August 3 6:37 PM (1 hour and 33 minutes and 7 seconds later)
         
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yes there is....throw away all the porn materials you have, then dont date anyone for awhile. learn to love yourself....emotionally. learn who you are inside. preocupy your time with other things, like a hobby, or clubs such as computer clubs, drama clubs, anything that does not relate to sexual associations.
you are the master of your life, and God is the author. you have the power to choose what you want to do.
let yourself be involved in sports, bikeriding, rollerblading, something that is thrilling and exillerating. this will give your brain endorphans that sex gives you. what your brain is craving are endorphans, a chemical inside the brain that gives pleasure, and good feelings. masterbation gets that easily, but, it takes your life away....spend it doing things you can talk to other people about, like " i went sky-diving!!! wow !!! nit was great!!!!" you can tell some one," wow!!!! what an orgasm i had alone last night!!!".....get it?
you can get the same thrill or effect by sports, or something cool, like surfing, skydiving, skateboarding.
just throw away the porn....it's an addiction, and like all addictions....can be overcome.
good luck.
p.s. then, you will be able to get together someday with someone, and it will be like magic, because you gave yourself a rest from that mindset.

Edited by sharonfrost on August 3 2005 at 6:39 PM



Sharon Frost
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For God so loved the World, that He gave His only begotton Son, that whosoever believith on Him, shall not perish, but have everlasting Life.
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August 3 6:49 PM (12 minutes and 20 seconds later)
         
Reply to sharon frost's Post: I was kind of hoping to get something from someone who wasn't associated with religion. I'm not Christian. I have been involved in activities and I haven't been on a date in over a year. That's another reason I watch the porn.
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August 3 6:58 PM (8 minutes and 21 seconds later)
         
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Hi

While Sharon is right as far as an addiction, there are ways that you can help yourself.

Here is a good web site that gives some ideas for breaking this addiction:
http://www.no-porn.com/

If this doesn't help you, please write again and I will do more research.

Kerry

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August 3 7:03 PM (2 minutes and 17 seconds later)
         
Reply to Kerry's Post: I took the test at the web site I was given and I don't think I'm addicted to porn. The problem I'm having is that regular sex doesn't turn me on. Watching porn isn't taking over my life though or interferring with activities. I just want to know if there is something I can do to make normal sex with a partner more exciting.
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August 3 7:54 PM (11 minutes and 57 seconds later)
         
I have loved people. That doesn't make the sex with them more exciting though.
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It's true that I haven't been on a date in a year, but I don't think this has anything to do with it. I've always had this problem. I've never really been able to orgasm during sex (any kind..oral, manual, etc)I have check-ups every year. I'm just thinking perhaps my brain is programmed incorrectly now and want to know if there's something I can do to change it.
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