my husband and i have been married 20 years ,i love him he loves me . about 5 years ago he had an emotional affair with a co worker he felt sorry for ,no sex im sure . any way he took her to a back dr. when i thought he was at work i found out . he says he just felt sorry for her but i keep thinking about him lying to me, taking a day off for her when he never does for me because we needed the money when ever i want him to stay home for me. . he shows me hourly how much he loves me and he is truly sorry i just cant forget how do you forget the lie and move on this is tearing me up and i want to stop thinking about it, there was more then one time he helped her out but only one time that i didnt know about.he acually asked me the other times first if it was ok.its just the lie that makes me wonder was i being stuoid trusting him that much.