I've been married for over 30 years. Its been 30 years of pure hell. I want to screem, I've been a fool for so long. I've wasted all this time with someone who doesn't even like me. If only Phil Donahue was Dr. Phil - I know I would have handled things so differently We had two wonderful children, a home, sent them to school, they have graduated college. And now nothing. This isn't the empty nest syndrom it's so much more. How do I start to get out of HELL?